Saturday, May 1, 2010

No honey, not until we decide on your side of the bargain

Few weeks back there was this video of a stick man and a stick woman posted on facebook. Someone amongst my friends or their friends or may be their friends posted it. Can’t remember it now. You know how it is with social networking. You are supposed to be in touch. So much so that you end up forgetting who it was that you touched.

I have been terribly caught up with work for last few weeks now. But I had to write this post about this video that has caught my fancy and made me think about it. So I came back early today to write about it. Yeah, nine in the evening IS early. It just depends on the perception.

I digress no more.

So here was this video with this song playing in the background and Mr. Stick Man and Ms. Stick Woman enacting the song. Not only on facebook but every lady and not any man I have known went so ooh aah about this song. I completely understand. Here is the song. It’s a good ol’ song by good ol’ Adam Sandler. Yeah the same funny man. But this song was not sung in jest.

I wanna make you smile
Whenever you're sad
Carry you around when your arthritis is bad
All i wanna do, is grow old with you
I'll get you medicine when your tummy aches
Build you a fire if the furnace breaks
So, it could be so nice growing old with you,....
I'll miss you
Kiss you
Give you my coat when you are cold
Need you
Feed you
Even let you hold the remote control.
So let me do the dishes in our kitchen sink
Put you to bed when you've had too much to drink
Oh I could be the man that grows old with you
I wanna grow old with you.

This might be a man’s world but when it comes to romance my fellow men you are a mockingbird. You know, they don't kill you mainly because you do no harm. You don't do one thing but sing your hearts out.

That is all that I am going to say about this. Of course apart from this little advice to Mr. Stick Man. Dear Stick Man if you really wanna grow old with the Stick Lady, like you sing, you got to catch up pretty fast. What with arthritis and heavy drinking she is almost all ready there.

As for me, letting you hold the remote control is a deal breaker anyway! But for starters you could sing that song for me.

My good fried Vibha is furious over this post (see comments). That makes me think I should have written more here, rather than leaving it to the readers interpretation. But then, I can always update my own post, right? I updated a few things in the main part. And the rest is here.

Did you notice that this song is not about some abstract idea of love and heart and all the nice things in between. Its about the fact of growing old with someone (that in my opinion is a very very big commitment,) while one party taking taking full responsibility of the well being of the other. If there is any such commitment from the lady, I can't figure that out from the song. Now when it comes to it, I am not aware of any such song.

While at that have you ever noticed, how there are so less songs (I don't know any, like I said before) with same idea from the point of view of a woman. Despite the fact that men are built to fare worse when they grow old.

Now what are my options here, crib about it, just accept it, demand an equal commitment (in the title) or make fun of it. I chose the last few.


Vibha said...

At times i think why all you posts start and end with satire - looking forward the day when you will say something positive about someone (without hidden satire in the praise)...

Pratyush said...

I say many positive things about many people. You just need to cut through the satire.
But your comment here made me update the post. Take a look.
Now let me come back to satire. Its not only you, I am expecting brickbats from all the lovely ladies for this post.
You are welcome!

Harpreet said...

I would like to throw some light on ur statement "While at that have you ever noticed, how there are so less songs with same idea from the point of view of a woman".
The reason is simple. A woman will do all that, without words, without promises to make( and as u wud say 'break'), without any force...for her man and for her kids...and u will have to agree here...
Its the men who need to use words to express their promises(so that they may later break them).
So, is the reason u wudn't find any woman saying all that in the real world scenario...leave away d songs

Pratyush said...

This is smart. Very much lady like. I will have to agree here. Much like I will have to if you said God makes everything possible or may be if you said that you saw a ghost.
You see what I am getting at. I can't really prove or contend something that is not there at all. And then what is the safest way to not break a promise? Not make any :-). See?

tarana said...

I very much agree with Harpreet that a woman doesn't have to prove her promise. Once she is commited, she need not require words to express her loyalty. her actions and care will tell the unsung love for her man. But for the man (who is by default a confused creature) has to repeatedly sing the song so that it is also a reminder for himself that 'dats the lady i wana grow old with'

Pratyush said...

Ah! there you go. If a man has to sing songs to "reminder for himself that 'dats the lady i wana grow old with'..", well that says something about the lady too.

Here I rest my case.


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